What Do I Gift Someone Who Is Difficult to Shop for This Diwali?

What Do I Gift Someone Who Is Difficult to Shop for This Diwali?

★ Difficult means specific — so buy in the category they have no opinion inMountain Breeze ₹849 · 130ml ₹1,349 · duos from ₹1,498 · free shipping above ₹499A portion funds girl-child education
★ SOSA · Diwali gifting · the recipient nobody can buy for
The people we call impossible are exacting about four things and completely indifferent about everything else — Mountain Breeze is what we send into the indifference
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★★★★★
"Gifted to my dad for his study. He's the hardest person to buy fragrance for. He texted me asking for a second one."
Karishma N. Delhi
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"My partner usually hates anything 'masculine'. She actually asked me to refill this one. Shared-room miracle."
Shaan D. Chennai
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Finally a home fragrance that doesn't smell like a flower shop. My bedroom feels like a Himachal homestay now."
Aditya R. Bengaluru
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Bought for my home office. The cedar holds focus better than any productivity playlist I've tried."
Mihir T. Pune
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Was terrified this would smell like Phenyl. It's the opposite. Real pine — crisp green, never sharp."
Rohit B. Hyderabad
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Reminds me of the Manali homestay we drive up to. Bottling the mountains for a Mumbai bedroom is a small miracle."
Tanmay S. Mumbai
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Gifted to my dad for his study. He's the hardest person to buy fragrance for. He texted me asking for a second one."
Karishma N. Delhi
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"My partner usually hates anything 'masculine'. She actually asked me to refill this one. Shared-room miracle."
Shaan D. Chennai
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Finally a home fragrance that doesn't smell like a flower shop. My bedroom feels like a Himachal homestay now."
Aditya R. Bengaluru
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Bought for my home office. The cedar holds focus better than any productivity playlist I've tried."
Mihir T. Pune
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Was terrified this would smell like Phenyl. It's the opposite. Real pine — crisp green, never sharp."
Rohit B. Hyderabad
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
★★★★★
"Reminds me of the Manali homestay we drive up to. Bottling the mountains for a Mumbai bedroom is a small miracle."
Tanmay S. Mumbai
Mountain Breeze · verified buyer
Alcohol-free · phthalate-free · paraben-free · IFRA-compliant · 0 ppm formaldehyde · composed in Pune 6 fibre reeds in a refillable glass bottle · 50ml lasts 6–8 weeks · 130ml lasts 14–18 weeks No oud, sandalwood, vetiver or amber reed — Nawaab attar from ₹399 is a skin fragrance

 

Founder Diaries · Diwali Gifting · The Difficult Recipient
By Sonal Sahani · ISIPCA Versailles 11 min read Updated August 2026
Buy in a category they hold no opinion in. Difficult people are not difficult because they are fussy about everything — they are fussy about the four or five things you happen to know them for, and almost entirely indifferent everywhere else. Mountain Breeze at ₹849 is where I send most of these buyers.
Quick answers — read this first
The answer: Mountain Breeze — Himalayan pine, sage and Indian cedar. ₹849 for 50ml (6–8 weeks), ₹1,349 for 130ml (14–18 weeks). The least sweet and least gendered thing we make, and our most successful gift to people described as impossible.

Why it works: a difficult recipient has strong views on watches, whisky, clothes, food and gadgets. Almost nobody has a strong view on what their study should smell like — so you are buying into an empty opinion.

Route if their life is loud about something: Safar ₹3,999 if they drive; Vaayu ₹11,999 if they own a business; Sukoon ₹1,899 if they love hotels.

The honest gap: there is no oud, sandalwood, vetiver or amber reed diffuser at SOSA, and no gift card to fall back on. If oud is their thing, that is the Nawaab attar from ₹399, which is a skin fragrance, not a room one.
The short answer
Short answer: Mountain Breeze at ₹849 for 50ml or ₹1,349 for 130ml. It is 9.4 on the SOSA strength scale, deep and green rather than sweet, and it is the scent I recommend for a household with mixed tastes, for a study, and for anybody you have been told is impossible to buy for. A verified buyer, Karishma N. in Delhi, gave it to her father — "the hardest person to buy fragrance for" — and he asked for a second one.
The reframe: "difficult to shop for" nearly always means specific. They know exactly which pen, which peg, which brand of shirt. Those opinions are concentrated in the handful of categories that define them publicly, and everywhere else there is simply no held position — which is precisely where a gift can land without being compared to a standard you cannot meet.
Shop: reeds ₹749–₹849 for 50ml, ₹1,249–₹1,349 for 130ml, six fibre reeds in a refillable glass bottle. Duos ₹1,498–₹1,598. Attars ₹379 (3ml) to ₹1,199 (12ml). Jar candles ₹379 / ₹664. Free shipping above ₹499. There is no gift card, no gift hamper and no verified gift-wrap option.
Straight answer
What do I gift someone who is difficult to shop for this Diwali?
1. Buy Mountain Breeze at ₹849, or ₹1,349 for the 130ml. Himalayan pine, real sage and Indian cedar. It reads as altitude — cool, dry, faintly resinous — and it is the least sweet register in the range, which is why it survives contact with people who dislike anything that smells like a shop.

2. Stop shopping in the categories they are known for. If he is the whisky man, everyone is buying him whisky and he has a view on every bottle. If she is the one with immaculate taste in ceramics, your ceramic will be measured against her shelf. Those categories are traps: high expectation, zero surprise.

3. Choose a category where they have never formed a position. Very few people have a settled opinion about what a room should smell like, and almost none of them are your recipient. That is not a gap in their taste, it is an opening in it — the one place where a good object arrives without being graded.

4. Prefer register over note. With a difficult recipient, do not chase a specific flower or fruit; choose a register. Deep and green offends the fewest people, which is the entire case for Mountain Breeze. Sweet, gourmand and floral all carry firm partisans and firm objectors.

5. If hedging matters more than precision, buy a duo. The Fresh & Grounded duo at ₹1,548 puts bright and green in the same box: they keep the one that suits them and the other goes to a second room rather than to a cupboard.

Alcohol-free, phthalate-free, IFRA-compliant, composed in Pune. Free shipping above ₹499, and a portion of every order supports girl-child education through Nanhi Kali.
TL;DR: difficult means specific. They hold firm opinions in the four categories you know them for and none at all in the fifth. Buy into the empty one: Mountain Breeze ₹849, or ₹1,349 in 130ml. If their life shouts about a car, a business or hotels, route to the Safar ₹3,999, the Vaayu ₹11,999 or the Sukoon ₹1,899 instead.
SOSA Mountain Breeze pine sage and cedar reed diffuser
The one we send to impossible people
Mountain Breeze · Himalayan pine + sage + cedar ₹849 / 50ml
9.4 on the SOSA strength scale and the deepest woody we make, yet it stays green rather than settling into timber. No sweetness, no flower shop, nothing that announces itself as a fragrance product — which is exactly why it gets past people who reject the category on principle. 6–8 weeks on the 50ml, 14–18 on the 130ml at ₹1,349. Six fibre reeds, refillable glass.

Difficulty is specificity — and specificity is concentrated, not general

The phrase "impossible to buy for" is used about two completely different people and it is worth separating them, because only one of them is actually a problem. The first has no strong preferences at all and is therefore hard to delight; anything reasonable will do, and nothing will thrill. The second — the one everybody actually means — has extremely strong preferences, and is hard to satisfy. This second person is not difficult across the board. They are difficult in four categories and completely open in every other.

Think about the ones in your own family. The uncle with a view on every whisky has no view whatsoever on towels. The cousin who is unbearable about coffee has never once considered what her hallway smells like. The father who returns every shirt you buy him keeps whatever is on the desk in his study without comment. What looks like blanket fussiness is a very narrow, very deep expertise, and the reason gifts keep failing is that we are drawn to buy inside the expertise — because it feels like knowing them. It is the one place where our purchase will be compared to a standard we cannot see.

So invert it. The categories where they have no position are not where the gift will be dismissed; they are where it will be noticed, because nothing there has been curated. Home fragrance qualifies for most Indian households in a way it does not in, say, France: it is a category people enjoy but have never systematically bought for themselves, so there is no incumbent for your gift to be measured against. Karishma N. in Delhi wrote about giving Mountain Breeze to her father for his study — "He's the hardest person to buy fragrance for. He texted me asking for a second one." That is not a review about a scent. It is a review about an empty opinion being filled.

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RULE ONE · AVOID THEIR SUBJECT
Never buy inside the category they are known for
Mountain Breeze reed diffuserMountain Breeze₹849If they are the person who knows about pens, watches, tea, cameras or cars, you are competing against a lifetime of accumulated preference and you will lose on a detail you did not know existed. Worse, they will be gracious about it, which is the outcome that stings. Choose a category with no incumbent. A reed diffuser is not being compared to the four other reed diffusers they have owned, because in most homes there have been none.
The test: if you can imagine them explaining to you why your choice was slightly wrong, you are in the wrong category.
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RULE TWO · CHOOSE THE LEAST POLARISING REGISTER
Deep and green offends fewer people than sweet or floral
Evening Calm reed diffuserEvening Calm₹799Anti-floral is a common and firmly held position; anti-gourmand is nearly as common. Nobody has ever told me they are opposed to cedar. That is the whole reason Mountain Breeze is the recommendation here and Garden Bloom is not, despite Garden Bloom being our most-gifted floral. If you want quieter rather than greener, Evening Calm at ₹799 is 8.9 and the softest thing we make. Shaan D. in Chennai put it well: "My partner usually hates anything 'masculine'. She actually asked me to refill this one."
The test: could a person plausibly say "I don't like that kind of smell"? If yes, it is not the gift for a difficult recipient.
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RULE THREE · MAKE IT DISPOSABLE WITHOUT INSULT
A consumable removes the obligation to keep it
SOSA Fresh & Grounded reed diffuser duoFresh & Grounded duo₹1,548Part of what makes a particular person hard to buy for is that they hate being given things they will have to keep out of politeness. A consumable settles that: it is used, it is finished, and nobody has to perform gratitude in perpetuity. That is genuinely freeing for the kind of exacting person this page is about, and it is why the Fresh & Grounded duo at ₹1,548 works so well: two bottles, two rooms, no ornament.
The test: if refusing to display it would be rude, it is the wrong gift for this person.

How to find the empty opinion in about two minutes

This is a practical exercise and it works. Write down the four things this person is known for in your family — the subjects on which they are quoted, corrected, or teased. Those four are now off-limits. Then ask a different question, and it is the one that matters: where do they actually spend their hours? A study, a car, a shop floor, a kitchen, a treadmill, a balcony. The empty opinion is almost always attached to the place, because places are where people live without curating.

The room answer for a study, a home office or a bedroom belonging to somebody who finds florals oppressive is Mountain Breeze ₹849. Mihir T. in Pune, another verified buyer, keeps it at his desk: "The cedar holds focus better than any productivity playlist I've tried." The car answer is the Safar ₹3,999, waterless and cordless and built for a cabin rather than a room, with a car perfume discovery set at ₹699–₹799 as the lighter version. The shop-floor answer is the Vaayu ₹11,999, waterless cold-air, rated to 1000 m³ of air volume with a Bluetooth app and timer — and note that the figure is a volume, not a floor area, so it should never be converted into square feet.

There is one more category of difficult recipient worth naming, because the standard advice fails them badly: the person who is difficult because they are a fragrance person. If they wear scent every day and have opinions about it, do not buy them a room fragrance as a substitute — buy the personal thing properly, in a size that is not a token. A 6ml attar at ₹669–₹699 or a 12ml at ₹1,149–₹1,199 is a real gift; the 3ml at ₹379–₹399 is a sample by comparison. And if the note they love is oud, the honest answer is that SOSA's only oud is Nawaab, a skin attar from ₹399 — there is no oud, sandalwood, vetiver or amber reed diffuser in the range and I will not pretend the woody reed is a substitute.

The five reed scents, ranked for a recipient who is hard to please

Ranked by how safely each lands with somebody whose views you cannot predict. The bottom two rows are honest warnings rather than recommendations.

The difficult-recipient ranking
Five scents, ordered by how little objection they attract
Scent Notes Strength Why it does or doesn't suit a difficult recipient 50ml
Mountain Breeze Himalayan pine · sage · Indian cedar 9.4 · deep woody Least sweet, least gendered register — the safest gift for someone exacting ₹849
Evening Calm Kashmir lavender · chamomile · soft musk 8.9 · softest in range Second safest. Choose it over Mountain Breeze if they dislike anything assertive ₹799
Morning Freshness Malabar lemon · peppermint · eucalyptus 9.0 · bright Safe, and the only one I would put in a kitchen — citrus does not fight food ₹749
Garden Bloom British rose · night-blooming jasmine 8.9 · medium floral Our most-gifted floral, but not a blind buy — anti-floral is a firmly held position ₹799
Fresh Brew Coorg coffee · Kerala vanilla · caramel 9.5 · deepest in range Superb for a coffee obsessive, wrong for anyone whose taste you are guessing ₹849
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The three that get past a difficult recipient
The SOSA principle
Nobody is difficult about everything. They are difficult about four things and indifferent about the rest.
The gift belongs in the rest, where there is no incumbent, no standard and nothing for your choice to be quietly measured against.

When their life overrides the scent question entirely — and when sweets win

Everything above assumes you are choosing a fragrance for a home. Sometimes the recipient's life is so loud about one thing that the scent decision becomes secondary, and in those cases the right gift is a machine or a car product rather than a bottle of oil. A person who spends two hours a day driving gets the Safar ₹3,999. A person who runs a clinic, a showroom or a villa gets the Vaayu ₹11,999. A person who talks about hotels gets the Sukoon ₹1,899, which covers 270–320 sq ft, runs sixteen to eighteen hours on low and ships with three 15ml Hotel Collection scents — which are water-based and ultrasonic-only, so there is no hotel-inspired reed and a 15ml at ₹299 is a refill rather than a gift in itself.

And here is the honest paragraph. For some difficult recipients, a box of good mithai is the better gift and I would send it without hesitation. If the person is elderly and the sweets are the greeting rather than the present; if this is a first visit to a household where the form matters more than the object; if they genuinely take pleasure in the ritual and would find a diffuser beside the point — then the traditional gift is correct and the clever one is a mistake. What mithai cannot do is survive the pile: twelve boxes arrive at that door in a week, they are all consumed by the weekend, and nobody remembers whose was whose. That is the trade, and it is a trade, not a rout.

One last practical note, because it prevents the commonest complaint. Tell them about the reeds when you hand it over. Six fibre reeds ship in every bottle and the reed count is the volume dial — six for a living room, three or four for a bedroom, two or three in a small bathroom, where a 50ml will then run close to three months. Fibre rather than rattan, because rattan clogs in Indian humidity. An exacting person who is given the dial will tune it and enjoy it; the same person handed a fragrance with no controls may simply decide it is too much.

The reason your gifts keep missing is that you keep buying inside their expertise. Buy where they have never formed an opinion, and there is nothing for you to be wrong about.
— Sonal Sahani, SOSA

The edit, in buying order — and what we do not make

In the order I would actually buy it, with the gaps stated rather than glossed. If you were hoping to hand the decision back to the recipient, note the last row before you go looking.

The difficult-recipient edit
What to buy, in what order, and what does not exist
Buy What it is When it is the right answer Price
1. Mountain Breeze 50ml Himalayan pine, sage, Indian cedar at 9.4 — deep, green, unsweet First, for almost everyone described as impossible ₹849
2. Mountain Breeze 130ml The same scent at 14–18 weeks instead of 6–8 When the gift needs to read as considered rather than courteous ₹1,349
3. Fresh & Grounded duo Bright and green together — two 50ml bottles, two rooms When you would rather hedge than guess ₹1,548
4. Attar 6ml or 12ml SOSA's own compositions — Adaa, Ameeri, Mastani, Nawaab If they are difficult because they wear fragrance daily ₹669–₹1,199
5. Safar or Sukoon Car and travel diffuser, or a 500ml ultrasonic with three scents When their life is loud about the car or about hotels ₹3,999 / ₹1,899
No oud reed, no gift card: the honest gap There is no oud, sandalwood, vetiver or amber reed diffuser, no aquatic or clean-linen reed, no room spray (every SOSA spray is a car perfume), no gift card, no gift hamper and no verified gift wrap or gift note. Nawaab is a skin attar and does not make an oud reed exist Said plainly, so you do not go hunting for something that is not there Nawaab from ₹399
Honest notes for buyers: SOSA reed diffusers are alcohol-free on a heat-stable CCT base, phthalate-free, paraben-free, IFRA-compliant and 0 ppm formaldehyde, with six fibre reeds in a refillable glass bottle, composed in Pune by an ISIPCA Versailles-trained perfumer and climate-tested through 45°C heat and 85% monsoon humidity. Reed oil and the water-based Hotel Collection are separate products and are not interchangeable; a 15ml Hotel Collection at ₹299 is a refill and never a standalone gift, because it needs a machine. SOSA is independent and not affiliated with, endorsed by or connected to any hotel brand, and the hotel scents are always described as "-inspired". Free shipping above ₹499, and a portion of every order supports girl-child education through Nanhi Kali.
SOSA Fresh & Grounded reed diffuser duo
The honest way to hedge
Fresh & Grounded duo ₹1,548
Morning Freshness and Mountain Breeze in one box — bright and green, two 50ml bottles, twelve fibre reeds between them. With a recipient you cannot read, a duo is better than a bigger single bottle: whichever one they prefer stays in the main room, and the other goes to a bathroom or a study rather than into a cupboard. 130ml × 2 is ₹2,548.
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A note from Sonal

Every Diwali I get the same message from buyers, usually late at night: he is impossible, she returns everything, I have given up. And almost every time, when I ask what the person is like, I am given a list of four things they are expert about. Nobody has ever said "he has strong opinions on everything". Difficulty is always local.

The reason I keep recommending Mountain Breeze for these buyers is not that it is our best scent — I would not rank them that way — but that it is the least arguable. Pine, sage and cedar do not smell like a shop, they do not smell sweet, and they do not read as feminine or masculine to anybody I have tested them on. It is the composition I built for rooms where two people with different taste have to live, and it turns out that is the same problem as buying for someone whose taste you cannot predict.

If the person is difficult because fragrance is their subject, do not send them a room. Send a 6ml or 12ml attar, which is our own composition rather than an interpretation of anyone else's, and accept that they may love it or file it. And if oud is what they want, I will say it again: we make one, it goes on skin, and there is no oud reed diffuser here. Everything is composed in Pune, and a portion of every order funds a girl's classroom through Nanhi Kali.

Frequently asked questions

What do I gift someone who is difficult to shop for this Diwali?
Buy in a category where they hold no opinion. For most people that is home fragrance, and the safest choice is Mountain Breeze at ₹849 for 50ml or ₹1,349 for 130ml — pine, sage and cedar, the least sweet and least gendered register we make. Avoid the four categories they are known for; that is where your choice gets graded.
Why Mountain Breeze rather than something floral or sweet?
Because anti-floral and anti-gourmand are both common, firmly held positions, and nobody objects to cedar. Garden Bloom at ₹799 is our most-gifted floral and a lovely gift when you know they like flowers, but it is not a blind buy. Fresh Brew at ₹849 is superb for a coffee obsessive and the least safe choice for everyone else.
They are difficult because they know fragrance. What then?
Then buy the personal thing properly rather than substituting a room fragrance. A 6ml attar at ₹669–₹699 or a 12ml at ₹1,149–₹1,199 reads as a real gift where the 3ml at ₹379–₹399 reads as a sample. If oud is their note, Nawaab is SOSA's only oud and it is a skin attar — there is no oud, sandalwood, vetiver or amber reed diffuser in the range.
Is there a gift card or a hamper I can send instead?
No. There is no SOSA gift card, no curated gift hamper or gift set, no verified gift wrap or gift note, and no corporate or bulk programme. The nearest thing to a hamper is a two-bottle duo at ₹1,498–₹1,598, and it is honestly a duo rather than a hamper. Free shipping above ₹499 is the only logistics promise on this site.
Is a 50ml reed enough, or should I buy the 130ml?
A 50ml at ₹849 runs 6–8 weeks and suits rooms up to about 150 sq ft — a bedroom, a study, a bathroom. A 130ml at ₹1,349 runs 14–18 weeks and suits living rooms and open-plan spaces. For a difficult recipient the 130ml is usually worth it, because duration is what makes the gift register as considered rather than as a courtesy.
Diwali gifting · the impossible recipient
They are not difficult about everything. Buy where they have no opinion — and there is nothing to get wrong
Mountain Breeze ₹849 for 50ml or ₹1,349 for 130ml — pine, sage and Indian cedar, six fibre reeds, refillable glass, alcohol-free and phthalate-free. Fresh & Grounded duo ₹1,548 if you would rather hedge. Attars ₹669–₹1,199 in 6ml and 12ml if fragrance is their subject. Free shipping above ₹499, and a portion of every order supports girl-child education through Nanhi Kali.
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About this guide: Written by Sonal Sahani, ISIPCA Versailles-trained founder and perfumer at SOSA Home & Body, on choosing a Diwali gift for a recipient described as difficult to shop for. The argument is that difficulty is concentrated specificity rather than general fussiness, and that the gift should be bought in a category where the recipient holds no formed opinion. Recommendations are routed by the recipient's life. Longevity figures assume ordinary Indian household use and vary with room size, ventilation and reed count. Review quotations are from verified SOSA buyers and are reproduced without alteration.

SOSA facts verified August 2026: Reed diffusers — Morning Freshness ₹749 / ₹1,249 (9.0), Evening Calm ₹799 / ₹1,299 (8.9, softest), Garden Bloom ₹799 / ₹1,299 (8.9), Mountain Breeze ₹849 / ₹1,349 (9.4, deepest woody), Fresh Brew ₹849 / ₹1,349 (9.5, deepest in range). 50ml lasts 6–8 weeks, 130ml 14–18 weeks. Duos: Day & Night ₹1,498, Fresh & Grounded ₹1,548, Warmth & Bloom ₹1,598 in 50ml; ₹2,498 / ₹2,548 / ₹2,598 in 130ml. Refills 300ml ₹2,399 · 500ml ₹3,499. Machines — Boond ₹899, Sukoon ₹1,899 (500ml, 270–320 sq ft, 16–18h on low, three 15ml Hotel Collection scents included), Megh ₹3,499 (6 litre tank, ~100 hours runtime, 215 sq ft coverage), Vaayu ₹11,999 (waterless cold-air, 1000 m³ air volume, Bluetooth app and timer), Aangan ₹25,999, Meenar ₹38,500, Safar ₹3,999 (waterless cordless car and travel diffuser). Car perfumes ₹449–₹1,499; discovery set ₹699–₹799. Hotel Collection 15ml ₹299 · 100ml ₹999 · 300ml ₹1,799, water-based and ultrasonic-only; a 15ml is a refill and not a standalone gift; there is no hotel-inspired reed diffuser. Attars ₹379–₹1,199 across 3ml, 6ml and 12ml; Nawaab is SOSA's only oud and is a skin fragrance. Solid body perfumes 15g ₹459–₹549. Core jar candles 80g ₹379 / ₹664. All reed diffusers are alcohol-free on a heat-stable CCT base, phthalate-free, paraben-free, IFRA-compliant and 0 ppm formaldehyde, with six fibre reeds in a refillable glass bottle, composed in Pune. There is no oud, sandalwood, vetiver or amber reed, no aquatic or clean-linen reed, no room spray, no gift card, no gift hamper, no verified gift wrap or gift note and no corporate or bulk programme. Free shipping above ₹499. A portion of every order supports girl-child education through Nanhi Kali. SOSA is an independent Indian fragrance house and is not affiliated with, endorsed by or connected to any hotel brand. Prices subject to change — see the live product pages.
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